This divorce is going to cost you something. What’s still undecided is how much of your time, your money, and your sanity you lose along the way.
The Real Cost, Either Way
Every unclear email to your attorney costs you at their hourly rate, since your attorney bills for that time regardless of whether it moves your case forward. A decision made from panic often costs you again later, because you end up undoing it once you have had time to think clearly. Even the way you first tell your spouse you want a divorce sets the tone for everything after it. As a result, an adversarial opening tends to lock in an adversarial, expensive process for years, while a clear and steady one does the opposite.
I help you move from the story of your divorce to the business of your divorce, from the version driven by fear and reaction to the version driven by strategy. First, I help you sort legal concerns from emotional ones before attorney meetings, so your retainer goes toward decisions instead of venting. In addition, I help you build the next relationship, not the marriage itself, but whatever comes after it, so your children have stability at every stage, whether they are five or thirty-five. This is not the end of your family. It is simply the restructuring of it. Time. Money. Sanity. That is what coaching actually protects, starting with the very first conversation you have about this divorce.
“You are the architect of your new life. Let’s build it the way you want it now.”
The answers are already in you. They’re just buried.
I am a divorce coach who specializes in transition and recovery. I help capable people move through divorce and into the life that comes next. For years you accommodated someone else’s needs, wants, and desires. Now you get to rediscover what matters most to you, and become the architect of a life you actually design.
My role is not to tell you what to do, and I am not here to agree with everything you say. Unlike a friend who agrees with everything, I am not caught in the middle of your emotions, which means I can see clearly when you cannot. Working like an archaeologist, I carefully uncover what has been buried beneath the grief, the confusion, and the fear.
Your divorce doesn’t look like anyone else’s. Your path forward shouldn’t either.
Transition and recovery looks different for everyone. Most of the people I work with see themselves in one of these.
Moving from married partners to co-parents
You are learning to share the children you once made every decision for, and you want to protect them from the conflict while you find your new rhythm.
The provider stepping fully into parenting
You built the career while your partner carried more of the daily parenting. Now you are learning those rhythms yourself, often while someone insists it is not real. There is nothing fake about rising to a new season.
Gray divorce, starting over after a long marriage
After decades together, you are rebuilding your finances, your identity, and your family ties, sometimes for the first time in your adult life. This is not merely an ending. In fact, it is the beginning of a life you finally get to design for yourself.
Rediscovering yourself, and dating when the time is right
You are figuring out who you are now and what you actually want, which is its own kind of work after years of putting yourself last. When dating enters the picture and there are children involved, however, you are no longer dating only for yourself. You are dating for you and your kids.
You’ve been carrying this alone long enough. Here’s what changes.
Four areas where clarity changes everything
What you feel: Every message from your ex lands with a pit in your stomach, and the disagreements never seem to end.
What I help you do: We lower the temperature and move you toward a workable new relationship, separating the preferences you dislike from the concerns that genuinely matter, so you stop spending energy and money on battles that change nothing.
The reality: You feel powerless, as though decisions about your own life and children now belong to someone else.
My approach: Together, we focus on what is yours to control and restore you to your rightful place as the decision-maker, not a bystander in your own story.
What you feel: You are grieving and exhausted, and you still have to make enormous decisions about money, family, and your future.
What I help you do: First, we steady you, because sound decisions are impossible from a place of fight, flight, or freeze. Then we make the decisions together, clearly.
The deeper challenge: You used to know exactly who you were. Now you are not sure what you even want anymore.
The recovery work: Together, we rediscover what matters most to you, so that you can design the next chapter on your own terms.
This is a season, not a single conversation
In fact, this is intentional work, built over time. As a result, we build new clarity and new stability across a season, because that is the only way change of this kind actually lasts.
Don’t take my word for it. Here’s what clients say.
A transition and recovery client
“Mary is insightful, caring, and really listens to her clients. She takes the time to help her clients navigate through challenging seasons. What I love best is that she also gives her clients the tools to help them heal and create healthy boundaries in their relationships moving forward. I highly recommend her to anyone who needs the help and support to move forward in a positive, healthy way.”
— Kara, transition and recovery client
A client navigating faith and divorce
“Mary is able to quickly discern and catch up to the situation and relationship issues, and jump in without wasting a lot of time needing to give all the details of the story over and over. Her suggestions were astute and spot on. It is comforting to have someone who understands the importance that my faith plays in this situation and the decisions I make.”
— Sharon, coaching client
A fellow divorce coach
“I have been consistently impressed by the depth of her knowledge and the intentional way she supports families through divorce. She understands that divorce is not just a legal process. It is a complete life transition. Whether she is helping clients prepare for attorney meetings, develop healthier co-parenting relationships, create stability for their children, work through emotional triggers, or approach dating after divorce with greater self-awareness, her goal is always long-term healing rather than short-term survival. Her approach is compassionate, practical, and grounded in helping people build a healthier next chapter.”
— Molly Priest, Founder of Molly Priest Coaching, fellow divorce coach
Choose the level of support that fits where you are right now.
Every path begins with a complimentary consultation, where we map what is ahead and decide together whether we are a good fit. From there, you choose the level of support that fits your season.
The Monthly Coaching Membership
Week-to-week support for the long haul, ideal when you are near the beginning of your divorce and want strategic help all the way through. Weekly one-on-one sessions run 55 minutes, and membership also includes priority scheduling access, ten minutes of additional coaching support once a week, and a quarterly 30-minute Clarity Check-In to step back, reassess your goals, and mark how far you have come. $575 a month, cancel anytime
Single Sessions
Not ready for ongoing support, or simply need help thinking through one specific decision right now? A single 55-minute one-on-one session is here whenever you need it, with no commitment and no package to track. $175 per session
Grounded in grace, truth, wisdom, and hope.
My coaching is grounded in Christian faith, offered as a foundation rather than a set of rules. In fact, many of the people I work with never imagined that divorce would become part of their story, and I understand the grief that surfaces when divorce meets faith. Therefore, my aim is to help you lean into your faith rather than run from it. Faith is offered here, never required, and everyone is welcome.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7
This is your life, and you are the author of what comes next.
You do not have to have it all figured out to take the first step. You only have to begin. Let’s find out together whether this is the right fit.